Intimidating person definition
We have to accurately assess our power, not in order to puff ourselves up but in order to figure out how best we might use it to deliberately help others and how best to avoid risking hurting others.
And we have to remember that since we can be intimidating to others, we need to be sensitive to how that happens and proactively counter it, rather than laugh off such a prospect as a flattering suggestion that it is best not to believe lest it go to our heads.
And, even more urgently, we feel pressure not to convey to others that we think ourselves superior and not to be primarily by a desire to be generally better than others.
Even as it’s understood that inevitably greatness requires beating out competitors in one arena or another, we certainly should not think of ourselves as better than people I think these attitudes are mostly for the best, though I think I would seek to modify them in some ways.
In this post, I want to focus in on how false modesty, an emotion I think people sometimes develop as a corrective against arrogance, can actually become a counter-productive kind of With seemingly any power comes the power to hurt.
We all know of many ways that powerful people can hurt others deliberately.
I once mentioned this to a tenured professor, a professor older and much more senior than I, and he laughed and said, “you know, I was just out talking with him and I felt like I was 12 years old again, trying to please my father.”Now I have heard secondhand that this imposing professor has apparently been told a couple times that he intimidates people and his response apparently was amused bewilderment.
It is very easy for him to come off as confrontational, dismissive, and flat out discouragingly critical.
Intimidation (also called cowing) is intentional behavior that "would cause a person of ordinary sensibilities" to fear injury or harm.