Ten rules of dating
Remember, you’re not just dating for yourself, you’re also dating to make the world better.Don’t even consider dating someone who won’t likely volunteer at your organization.Sure, you may have kickass pickup lines like, “Does RFP stand for ‘Really Fine Person?’ You’re definitely an RFP to me” or “So, you’re a program officer, huh?As a colleague puts it, “You are allowed date nights and the occasional missed morning…sheesh! "Always waiting for the guy to initiate contact is annoying to most men," says Harold, 35.s father, who I believe suspected me of wanting to place my hands on his daughter? He would open the door and immediately affect a good-naturedly murderous expression, holding out a handshake that, when gripped, felt like it could squeeze carbon into diamonds. Remembering how unfairly persecuted I felt when I would pick up my dates, I do my best to make my daughter? If I ask you where you are going and with whom, you have one chance to tell me the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth so help you God. When my Agent Orange starts acting up, the voices in my head frequently tell me to clean the guns as I wait for you to bring my daughter home. Rule Eight: The following places are not appropriate for a date with my daughter:- Places where there are beds, sofas, or anything softer than a wooden stool.- Places where there are no parents, policemen, or nuns within eyesight.- Places where there is darkness.- Places where there is dancing, holding hands, or happiness.- Places where the ambient temperature is warm enough to induce my daughter to wear shorts, tank tops, midriff T-shirts, or anything other than overalls, a sweater, and a goose down parka zipped up to her throat.- Movies with a strong romantic or sexual theme are to be avoided; movies which feature chainsaws are okay.- Hockey games are okay.- Old folks homes are better. I may appear to be a potbellied, balding, middle-aged, dimwitted has-been.
Don’t even think about inviting them to a team happy hour unless they’ve had time to reflect on their identity and role in undoing the dominant systems of oppression. Sure, you’re committed to your work, but find time for yourself and your current or potential relationship.
When it is the right time to take your relationship to this level, be respectful, thoughtful, and generous, especially if this is your date’s first time helping out at a gala. If you’ve done a good job, your partner should be well invested in your organization. It is important then to consider the effects this may have on your org if you break up with them. But if they’ve become a major donor, and especially if they work at a place that has a really strong matching program…are they really all that bad?
Rule 6: Do not schedule dates on important days at your organizations. Come on, no one is *If you’re thinking, “Oh crap, I am with someone from the nonprofit sector, I’ve violated the Cardinal Rule,” well, calm down. But now that you do know, there is no other choice: One of you has to quit the sector and become an engineer, doctor, lawyer, business owner, marketing exec, software developer, model, or oil tycoon.
Rule 5: Wait until at least the third date before asking someone to volunteer at your fundraising gala.
To do so on the first or second date is ungentlemanly or unladylike. Who wants to see you holding hands and leaning on each other’s shoulders and stuff?! Besides, it may decrease the morale of your single coworkers, and we need morale to be high, because the Rule 10: Consider the ramifications to your organization when considering breaking up with someone.Yes, proximity is powerful, especially when so many of us work ridiculous hours and see each other all the time. First, because we deserve a decent car and house and occasional access to organic blueberries, and the chances for those things greatly decrease if we only stick with each other.